It can sometimes be very difficult
to face adversity with confidence,
and usually, it’s all in our own heads.
We begin to think of unreasonable
worst-case scenarios,
which incites panic,
and then we can’t stand up
to the issue at all out of fear
or anxiety.
For example,
your boss at work
might be treating you unfairly,
and you want to confront them
about it. However,
you start to worry
that your boss might fire
you if you confront them.
Then, you open the door
to more unreasonable thoughts,
such as,
“What if I can’t find another job?”
You won’t allow yourself
to dream big with thoughts of
achieving the desired result or
even exiting the company
and having a successful career
as an entrepreneur.
To tackle adversity well,
you must first divide
the realistic outcomes
from the unrealistic.
If your mind is crowded
with absurd what-ifs,
then you won’t be able
to take on adversity confidently.
When an unrealistic scenario
pops into your mind,
think to yourself, if somebody
told you that this happened to them,
would you believe them?
If the answer is no,
you can probably dismiss it
as an unlikely scenario
that you don’t have to worry about.
Worrying about unlikely scenarios
too much could actually increase
the probability that they occur,
because if you’re too concerned
with them happening.
You might say the wrong thing
or say something
that you didn’t mean
to out of stress.
Once you have only realistic scenarios
in mind, then you can think
about what the worst case is.
Consider how likely the worst case
is to occur, and what the consequences
of it occurring would be.
If the consequences aren’t too severe,
you can be confident
that even if it goes all wrong,
you can still recover and be okay.
Similarly, if the chances
of a poor outcome
are very slim, then you can
find confidence in knowing
that you’ll probably be fine
no matter what.
Finally, you need to realize
that by being confident,
you’re increasing your chances
of a positive outcome.
If you go into a job interview
feeling nervous,
the employer will be able
to pick up on that.
If you try to lead an online niche
audience with fear of competition
or ridicule, they’ll sense it
and be turned off.
While you can’t be
overly confident,
people will often time
respond better to confident
people than they will
to unconfident people.
It’s much harder to get respect
when you’re not holding
your head high,
and without respect,
it’s difficult to overcome adversity.
By tackling your problems confidently,
you’re not only going to be
more successful
in facing them,
but you’ll also feel more
accomplished at the end of the day.
